Surround Yourself with Positive, Like-Minded People

Recently, I reconnected with one of my favourite people in the world.

You know the kind of person I’m talking about…the kind of person who is filled with love and positivity and lights up a room when he walks in.  The kind of person who has accomplished so much in his own life and touched the lives of countless other people in positive ways. The kind of person who has every reason to have a big ego but instead is self-effacing, humble, and amazingly charming.

Some of you might know him – Hernan Humana is just that kind of person.  Hernan was my coach on the York University Varsity Women’s Volleyball team and also when I was competing on the Canadian National beach volleyball team in World Tour events.  He’s the epitome of a high achiever – he represented Chile on both the National volleyball and basketball teams as an athlete and then coached indoor and beach volleyball teams at the highest levels. He’s currently coaching both his children Felipe and Melissa who both represent Canada in beach volleyball internationally.

Hernan’s most recent and epic accomplishment is writing his own book.  His book is called “Playing Under the Gun: An Athlete’s Tale of Survival in 1970s Chile.”  It’s a moving, courageous, eloquently written, autobiographical account of his experiences representing his beloved country of Chile during an era of brutal dictatorship under Pinochet’s regime. I highly recommend picking up a copy if you’re looking for a great new book to read!

I used to run into Hernan quite a bit.  We used to see each other regularly when I was still playing beach volleyball but since I stopped exercising several years ago, I haven’t spent a lot of time at the beach. Shortly after his book launch, the stars aligned and we ended up getting together twice for coffee; it was like no time had passed at all and we had such a great time catching up.

Seeing Hernan again reminded me of how important it is to surround myself with positive, like-minded people. There are many success experts that talk about the importance of choosing the five people you spend the most time with wisely.  Jim Rohn famously said: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  This is because those five people will tremendously influence your personal growth and the path of your life.

This has important implications:

• if the people you spend the most time with are negative, complain a lot and don’t do much to improve themselves or their lives, you are likely to become negative, complain a lot and settle for things that dissatisfy you in your life;
• conversely, if you spend your time with positive people who raise you up, are driven to become better versions of themselves and are living their lives with purpose, you’ll be a positive person who raises others up, becomes a better version of yourself and lives a life of purpose.

This is pretty powerful, isn’t it?

This doesn’t mean that you need to cut off all ties to friends or family who you might categorize as a bit (or a lot) negative.  Rather, it means that you can deliberately increase the amount of time that you spend with like-minded, positive people.  In other words, find your fabulous five and spend as much time as you can with them!

One of the quickest and most exciting ways to do this is to find a community (ideally where you can meet face-to-face) of like-minded, supportive, positive people that you can connect with on a regular basis.  If finding an in-person community is too difficult, finding an online community can also work (you can join our Facebook community here if you want to surround yourself with amazing people creating mind-blowing possibilities in their lives!).

Whether your interests lie in volleyball, working out, mixed martial arts, reading or writing (I know what you’re thinking: “Kirsten, you’re just listed all the things you like there!”  Yep…you’re right but don’t they always say, write about what you know best?), find a community of positive people who are all aiming their lives in a similar direction. Being part of a community is a basic human need and finding “your tribe” of like-minded people is a powerful way to get excited about your life again.

I’ve found a great community of people who cheer me on and are always rooting for my success (and of course, I’m always cheering them on and rooting for their success too – it’s a pretty amazing and wonderful thing!).

For many of us who are stuck in survival mode, finding a positive group of like-minded people can be the crucial factor that moves us from merely surviving to thriving.

Post a comment and let us know if you have a group of positive, like-minded people to surround yourself with and how that has changed your life!

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